When enough is enough.

So, what is a real man? What is a real woman? It has come to my attention that the modern male has changed to a more feminine gender. Why is that? Is it because that we have been overwhelmed by the media to be a more caring, tender, loving person? Is it because that we have been taught that we should moisturize and exfoliate? Is it because that it is not politically correct to speak ones mind? I believe that women are looking for a real man to take charge and to be confident. Although, now it is of public opinion confidence is now perceived as being cocky. I went to an interview once and was asked the question. The question was, "Why do I believe that I can do this job?" I answered confidently,"Because I have done this job with great success!" This is like asking Super Man why that that he believed that he could be a super hero! He has done it before! He has flown without an airplane! He is bullet proof! He has lazer eyes and Xray Vision. How could he NOT be Super Man?

Now there is an ugly side that we try to sweep under the rug. When is enough, enough? When does being a confident macho man turn into being a pompous ugly bully?

Let me say, that it is NEVER okay to strike a woman! We can also injure them with our language our way of isolating and psychologically harming them with our intimidation. If you are the type to bully, you know what I'm talking about. 

This is a dangerous road that we travel when we harm anyone in this fashion. I know, a lot of women just jumped on the band wagon but let me say this that there are women who use ways to harm men as well.

Our words can be used as weapons of destruction. Remember that once you say something it can never be retrieved. You can heal the wounds but the scars stay forever!

• James 3:5 KJV

  Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things . Behold , how great a matter a little fire kindleth !
  
  

• James 3:6 KJV

  And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
  
  

• James 3:8 KJV

  But the tongue can no man tame ; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
  
  

• 1 Peter 3:10 KJV

  For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:
  
  

• 1 John 3:18 KJV

  My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.
  
  
  I often hear people say that they love someone but they never show it in deed. I question the love of a couple when I never see any love shown. People in love have a look. There is a tenderness. There is a familiarness about them. A touch, A kiss, A wink.
  Many guys say in boast, "Well, I'm the man of the house and what I say is law!" I think that we have misunderstood what God wanted us to do when it came to the flow chart of the family. In terms of a husband and a wife, God put man as the head of the family. I know that this is not politically correct but God is not politically correct! During the creation of the world, God made Adam and then he gave him a help meet. He created Eve, the first woman and the mother of mankind from the rib of Adam. This is according to the writings of Moses in the first book of the Pentateuch in the Bible, Genesis. 

  • Genesis 2:22 KJV

    And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

  • Genesis 2:23 KJV

    And Adam said , This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be calledWoman, because she was taken out of Man.

  Genesis 3:16 KJV

  Unto the woman he said , I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
  Because that Man was first in creation does not give us an excuse to abuse our authority. We need to know how utterly precious that the gift of women are to man. 

  Proverbs 11:16 KJV

  A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches.

  • Proverbs 31:10 KJV

    Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
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  • Proverbs 31:30 KJV

    Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised 
    
    
    Believe it or not the Bible speaks more about a whorish and brawling women but it is hard to find a good woman in these times. It is the same for women who are trying to find a good loving husband. 
    I saw a post on Facebook where a lady was stating that Men should have a fax with them like a CARFAX. I commented that men are like women that we all come with baggage but some need a siren and flashing lights!
    Notice what the Apostle Paul wrote to the Church of Ephesus in Ephesians chapter 5 starting in verse 20.
    20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our LordJesus Christ; 21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
    
    
    Did you see the comparison of our wife to the Church of Christ? We as strong viral men should LOVE our wives as Christ loved the Church and Gave himself...Yes, that means that he gave the ultimate sacrifice and died for the his bride the Church. Don't you understand that when she becomes your wife that she is a part of you now. 
    When you marry, you become as one. You no longer are a part of your mother and father but have started a new family.
    Sometimes our families can try to drive a wedge between our spouses. 

    Genesis 2:24 KJV

    Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

    I know that it so easy to fall back and live with the parents but you need to be on your own! If you cannot sustain your relationship why would you marry in the first place? I know that you love your Mom and Dad but there comes a time for a Man to grow up and be a Man. Cut the apron strings!

    
    

    I would in closing like to share one of the most beautiful passages of scripture that came from the pen of the Apostle Paul. This was a letter to the Church of Corinth. Remember that this is in the Kings English so when you see the word Charity replace it with the word, Love.

    I Corinthians Chapter 13:

    1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned , and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 4 Charity suffereth long , and is kind ; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself , is not puffed up , 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly , seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked , thinketh no evil; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 8Charity never faileth : but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail ; whether there be tongues, they shall cease ; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away . 9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect is come , then that which is in part shall be done away . 11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see through a glass, darkly * ; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known . 13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

    
    

    When you marry someone ask your self this first, Do I truly Love this person? Or is it just a piece of Ass? Could you die for this person to protect them from danger? Would you take food out of your mouth and give it to this person to sustain their life? Can you live without this person? Can you leave all and only be with this person for the rest of your days??